Ryan says he is thinking about dating again and asks Agnes for first-date advice. They cover the best day and time (a Saturday late afternoon), keeping the first meeting short with coffee and cake instead of dinner or a movie, what to ask, whether to discuss intentions, asking before physical contact, bringing a small gift, and red flags such as talking about an ex or being rude to a waiter.
Takeaways
- For a first date, keep it short and low pressure, such as coffee and cake, and save dinner or a movie for later.
- Spend the first date getting to know the person, listening and asking about her interests; do not interrogate her about intentions or dwell on your ex.
- Watch how someone treats service staff and whether they keep talking about an ex; ask before physical contact.
Chapters
- 0:00 Welcome and Ryan's return to dating
- 1:40 Best day and time for a first date
- 4:15 Coffee, dinner or a movie?
- 7:20 How to present yourself and what to ask
- 10:20 Setting intentions on a first date
- 14:30 Physical contact and asking permission
- 17:10 Topics to avoid and what to say about what you want
- 21:00 Red flags to watch for
- 23:00 Flowers, wine and showing up with a gesture
- 26:00 Honesty, respect and how they treat the waiter
- 29:40 Final advice and sign-off
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