In part two of his "rules of love", Ryan covers the "coming and going" category with Agnes weighing in: reading the mood, building romance across the whole day, dancing and massage as a prelude, and putting effort in rather than relying on porn expectations. They then turn to the "going" side with travel, quarterly getaways, remembering anniversaries and birthdays with phone reminders, and a weekly date night even with kids at home. Both land again on communication, since every partner likes different things.
Takeaways
- Put important dates, such as anniversaries and birthdays, in your phone with reminders about a month ahead so effort does not depend on memory.
- Protect couple time with a regular date night, even a simple dinner at home, and an occasional overnight or quarterly trip.
- Ask your partner what they like and listen, because what works for one person will not work for another.
Chapters
- 0:00 Welcome and what coming and going means
- 3:00 Catching up and Agnes's podiatrist visit
- 7:30 Learning about intimacy and putting in effort
- 10:30 Communication and reading the mood
- 14:38 Dancing and massage as a prelude
- 17:30 Staying awake and using real-world expectations
- 23:13 The long game: travel and quarterly trips
- 26:00 Remembering occasions and setting reminders
- 30:36 Weekly date night, with or without kids
- 33:43 Put the couple first, then wrap-up
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