Building Strong Relationships with your Adult Children

Agnes and Ryan talk about building good relationships with adult children: when kids should move out, how to give grown children freedom and respect while living under your roof, curfews, and handling conflict. They also cover holiday traditions when children marry, why constructive criticism should be sparing, and offering help rather than imposing it.

Takeaways

• Children are raised to be sent into the world, so give them trust and independence as they age.
• When adult children marry, they build new traditions, so plan flexible holiday dates instead of insisting on a specific day.
• Offer help or gifts without pushing, and do not take it personally if your adult child declines.

Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome and the holiday season ahead
• 1:40 Today's topic and why Agnes chose it
• 3:16 Learning from sisters and friends
• 4:21 Respecting your children as adults
• 5:22 Children are not ours to keep
• 6:22 How long should adult children live at home
• 9:00 Rules and freedom under your roof
• 10:35 Curfews and waiting up
• 14:45 Resolving conflict with adult children
• 17:54 Different generations, different outlooks
• 20:34 When your child finds a partner
• 22:07 Holiday traditions and in-laws
• 27:50 Constructive criticism versus meddling
• 34:18 Support networks and grandparenting
• 38:33 Offering help without forcing it

Conversation and opinion, not medical, legal, tax or financial advice.