In part one of the cheating episode, Agnes and Ryan go through the first five of ten warning signs that a partner may be cheating: a sudden change in appearance, secretive phone or computer use, being unreachable, changes in the couple's sex life, and growing hostility and resentment. They also discuss why some people deceive, why marriage takes daily effort, and why couples should talk about intimacy before marrying. Agnes also announces new books and her move toward relationship and wedding officiant work.
Takeaways
- A sudden makeover, a new secrecy around the phone, and long unexplained absences are common warning signs, but none proves cheating by itself.
- Raise problems by talking about what you feel is missing instead of attacking your partner, and keep dating your spouse.
- Discuss expectations about intimacy and other big topics before marriage so resentment does not build later.
Chapters
- 0:00 Welcome back and book update
- 3:40 Sign one: a new look and routine
- 7:19 Sign two: secretive phone use
- 10:33 Sign three: unreachable for hours or days
- 13:09 Why some people deceive
- 17:16 Marriage is a daily choice
- 19:55 Sign four: changes in the sex life
- 22:30 Compatibility before marriage
- 25:09 The book: So You Think You're Ready to Get Married
- 25:43 Sign five: hostility and resentment
- 27:18 Who cheats and why
- 29:21 Wrap-up and Agnes's new projects
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